I go away and things just go all to hell.
Dec. 16th, 2003 11:15 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
featherynscaleWhile I generally approve of people who desire to date me finding someone else to occupy them instead, I would prefer if the ones that I actually *like* would not go forth and date people who suck.
For one thing, it interferes with my general wish that people would do things that make them happy - when you're dating somebody that sucks, it's only a matter of time until you're miserable, and you can't tell somebody "Hey, your new girlfriend? She sucks. She's going to make you unhappy" - they don't listen, and then they just get mad at you.
For another thing, it makes me think that perhaps, if they want to date people that suck, and they also at some point wanted to date me, that I might also suck, and just not know that I suck.
Grumble grumble.
For one thing, it interferes with my general wish that people would do things that make them happy - when you're dating somebody that sucks, it's only a matter of time until you're miserable, and you can't tell somebody "Hey, your new girlfriend? She sucks. She's going to make you unhappy" - they don't listen, and then they just get mad at you.
For another thing, it makes me think that perhaps, if they want to date people that suck, and they also at some point wanted to date me, that I might also suck, and just not know that I suck.
Grumble grumble.
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speaking of openings
Date: 2003-12-16 09:45 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-16 09:46 am (UTC)Generally, people are not guided by anything resembling logic when chosing a person to date. They are guided mostly by their procreative urge. Meaning, pheromones and hormones get all mixed up in a rush, someone decides they'd like to fuck someone, and then the brain makes every excuse possible for that person to make it alright to be "dating" them, whether they are cool, nasty, or somewhere in between.
This person who wanted to date you, thought you were attractive, on a base level somewhere. That's a good thing.
Never underestimate, however, the ease with which a person succombs to the idea that they'd like to fuck someone and that it makes a person worth spending time with. Sometimes you just have to stand back and watch the train wreck, wishing fervently (if the person is someone you do care about ) that it didn't have to happen...
Unfortunately...humans only tend to learn lessons the hard way...by stepping on their own dick, so to speak.
D.
Yeah. What she said.
Date: 2003-12-16 09:48 am (UTC)Re: Yeah. What she said.
Date: 2003-12-16 09:58 am (UTC)D.
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Date: 2003-12-16 10:15 am (UTC)I'm (of course) much more concerned about my friend than about myself.
I hope he'll jump the train before the aforementioned collision occurs, but we'll see.
Well, she may, but that's beside the point.
Godden know that I've done some half-baked things over the years out of love or lust or some misguided martyr complex. Your friend's choice of someone who baffles you in no way reflects on your worth as a partner, or even as a friend; each situation is nearly completely different.
Unless your name is Elektra and you've got a geas on you to only do things with men of certain genetic character, that is.
Re: Yeah. What she said.
Date: 2003-12-16 11:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-16 11:56 am (UTC)::hiding::
::applause::
Date: 2003-12-16 11:59 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-16 12:03 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-16 01:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-16 01:48 pm (UTC)I'd like a tart, please.
Date: 2003-12-16 02:17 pm (UTC)agreed she does suck
Date: 2003-12-16 02:42 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-16 02:47 pm (UTC)Re: I'd like a tart, please.
Date: 2003-12-16 03:50 pm (UTC)Yay innuendo!
Date: 2003-12-17 02:06 am (UTC)Re: Yay innuendo!
Date: 2003-12-17 05:58 am (UTC)Re: Yay innuendo!
Date: 2003-12-17 07:04 am (UTC)Re: I'd like a tart, please.
Date: 2003-12-17 07:26 am (UTC)Re: I'd like a tart, please.
Date: 2003-12-17 08:15 am (UTC)And now I know that, although I don't get out enough, I may get out more than
twinkie thread
Date: 2003-12-17 08:16 am (UTC)Re: twinkie thread
Date: 2003-12-17 08:17 am (UTC)Re: twinkie thread
Date: 2003-12-17 08:30 am (UTC)Re: twinkie thread