Indulge my vulgar curiosity, if you would...

[featherynscale]

I will be the first to admit that my grasp of the rules about socialization, and especially those about romantic/sexual/marital relationships is not very solid. So I was hoping that you lot could give me some sort of feeling for the question in my brain today. The question has to do with how to deal with the ex-whatever of someone who is your friend. If you are friends with someone, and they break it off with a person they are dating/sleeping with/married to/whatever, is it okay for you to pursue their ex? If you are the ex-whatever of someone, are you offended if they date/sleep with/marry/whatever someone else?

I'm not asking this because I'm interested in pursuing anybody's ex. I'm not interested in how I should be relating to the people who are currently hooked up with any of my exes. I'm not passing judgment on anybody's behavior, or inviting others to do so. I'm just curious, and I don't know what people percieve the rules to be on the thing. Please help?

[Poll #940484]

Comments

[liquidfun.livejournal.com]

I've never really understood what was considered "appropriate" here myself.

Then again, I can think of a couple prominent instances where I started dating friend's "currents" rather than "exes", and I no longer have those friends, so apparently that is definately taboo.

[liquidfun.livejournal.com]

I'm not asking this because I'm interested in pursuing anybody's ex.

Not even if I beg?

Sometimes I can't help myself...

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

Depends. Who taught you to beg, and are you any good at it?

Re: Sometimes I can't help myself...

[liquidfun.livejournal.com]

"taught"?

My begging is an innate talent, honed over the years by extensive practice.

As for "good", bite your tongue, I'm "awesome" at begging.

Actually, don't bite your tongue, I've got plans for that organ ...

All right, I'm gonna get myself in trouble ... and I certainly don't need to be lit on fire. Not this moment, anyway.

Re: Sometimes I can't help myself...

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

Heh. I haven't set anyone on fire in years. I'm perfectly harmless. (Ha! One of those statements is true. Care to guess which one?)

Re: Sometimes I can't help myself...

[wildnsquirrelly.livejournal.com]

No.

Re: Sometimes I can't help myself...

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

Aw, come on! :P

[greektoomey.livejournal.com]

It wouldn't be "pursuit" then, would it?

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

Yeah, see, I have no question about that. Thou shalt not go after anybody's current without permission from everybody involved.