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[(Anonymous)]

I never really got the point of monogamy.

And I'm not just being quip. In my first relationship, I went with monogamy b/c it's the cultural default right now and spent two years basically forcing myself to care about what my partner was doing and having to put up with him caring about what I was doing in a way that felt so unnatural to me.

I am never doing that again. And don't tell me I wasn't really in love. I've been with my second boyfriend for nearly seven years and... well I hate mushy stuff but imagine a bunch of it here because he often makes me want to say things that I'm way to embarrassed to write down. I've also been dating another very nice boy for a year now.

Our other past relationships have never been harmful to our relationship. There has been nothing any weirder than my mono friends have been through with there mono relationships. And we're way more honest with each other than most of them in general, and not just b/c many of them cheat, just more open in general.

If mono feels right to you, go ahead and do it. But don't walk around with the assumption that poly people are making this weird effort. For at least some of us, it's what feels natural.

[ex-clevergir259.livejournal.com]

Sorry to stir up the conversation so late, but I think it's great that you discuss the "mushy details" of your polyamourous relationships. It seems to me that the ones that get the most attention are the ones that end up in messy, public breakups, (http://www.ljdrama.org/index.php?p=1122) while the happy relationships fly under the radar.

:-)