More Family Fun

[featherynscale]

The sister's wedding situation continues to degenerate.

Now, not only do I have to visit with my father's side of the family on that weekend, I also have to meet my mom and stepfather, and visit both of their families too. Oh boy, a whirlwind tour of guilt-trips and lectures on how disappointing I am to everyone. The hits just keep coming.

Also in the conversation where I discovered this, Mom says to me what is possibly the most astoundingly rude thing she has ever said to me. She says, "I need to tell you something. Your father is in the roofing business." And I say, "Yes, I know that." So she says, "The roofing business in Central Florida is making people rich -- he's got a lot of money these days." And I say, "Good on him, he probably needs it, seeing as he's putting A through college and paying for her wedding, and W just graduated from high school, so he'll be putting her through college shortly." And then she says, "So while you're down there, you should ask him for money. He's got plenty of money, and he'll just give it to the other kids anyway."

It's one of those moments where I can't believe that someone has just said what they have just said. In my family, we hardly ever talk about money -- it's rude. And this from someone who mostly kept me away from that side of the family until I turned 18, by which time it was really too late to form a normal parent-child sort of relationship. My father has discharged any obligations he might have had to me. He doesn't owe me anything. We seldom even see each other. He's got four more kids to take care of (two of which are his, and two of which are his current wife's from a previous marriage) and who do all have a fairly normal relationship to him. I have no claim on him -- I'm probably not even in his will.

So yeah. Add this incident to the previously existing dread, and the contemplation of things I'll be missing in KC, and it is not difficult to see why I don't particularly want to do this trip.

EDIT: First hurdle, er, hurdled. Talked D(at Work) into going out and picking out an outfit for me. Bought a black and tan pantsuit with a mandarin-style top, which astoundingly does not look like a maternity outfit on me. Very nice, if a bit more than I really wanted to spend. D(at Work) then informed me that it would not at all go with any of the shoes I own, "especially not boots". So tomorrow, we are going to go buy some shoes to match.

Comments

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

The not being able to call them on it is certainly a southern thing -- the whole subculture is obsessed with face. And simultaneously with a claws-out, no-holds-barred struggle to appear somehow more perfect than everyone else. Fairly appalling, really.

[fionnabhar.livejournal.com]

Yep. That's it in a nutshell. We leave for Atlanta on Monday for a wedding, as well. We'll have to trade war stories when we get back. When's your date with doom?

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

I'll be gone the 17th-19th.
But the games begin today, as I have nothing which is suitable to wear to an outdoor wedding in June. Shocking, isn't it, that I'm not the light summer dress type? And shoes. I own one pair of dress shoes, of which I can only find the left one.

[fionnabhar.livejournal.com]

La Greca was assuming she'd wear her chemise and bodice to the wedding. At a Baptist church. We laughed and laughed and laughed.

We've ruint her.

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

Heh. I'd like to wear my garb to the wedding -- it's attractive, summery, and doesn't require me to buy new shoes.

But er, no, probably not.

[fionnabhar.livejournal.com]

If I can find another dress this year that's like my goldy-brown one that I got at the Games last year, the goldy-brown one will be available. I'll know by Saturday. If I can'tfind one in another color as I would like to, I'll have to use that one. That's about my limit of suitable summer wedding attire, as well.

[saffronhare.livejournal.com]

mercy, mercy, mercy.

Regretfully, my wardrobe-building skills are sorely lacking. Perhaps if you offer to purchase frozen concoctions for breathofgold, she would help you find something fabulous? Really, many of our mutual friends would be worthy allies -- but this sort of shopping will go down much easier if you can have drinkies with lunch and then ramble through the stores, dripping wit and venom.

Are you going to buy a hat, too? ::smirk::

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

It would certainly be funnier if I bought a hat. But I was really considering whether or not to shave my head.

Oh... just gave

[lightonthesill.livejournal.com]

a very southern *pink* hat to Princess Bordom. Perhaps she would loan it to you. (even has a flower on it) ....(my mother gave it to me) hee hee Lemme know if I can be of any assistance...

Snork

[opaljax.livejournal.com]

I totally think you should shave your head. And buy a hat. I'm really no help at all, am I?? :D

Re: Snork

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

Helpful like anything, you are.

[lightonthesill.livejournal.com]

Yep - that's the bitch of it... and when attacking from straight on... one is often met with either 1. ::blink::blink:: "I don't know what you are talking about" or 2. Blinding rage which hardly seems worth wading through.

May the force be with you m'dear.