Happy Valentine's Day from the Pillar of Severity

[featherynscale]

A thought for the day:

"My goal is to always come from a place of love...but sometimes you just have to break it down for a motherfucker." - RuPaul

:)

Comments

Re: from your "other half"

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

It's a rough go, really. Severity is only difficult for those of us on the beginning end of the individuation process, when we still have to remind ourselves that we can stand up and have opinions, and stuff. Mercy is hard for *everybody*, even nice people, because of what you mention - there's a component to it that includes the cut. Also, Mercy is limitless, where Severity is limiting... Next year should be exciting for all of us, if we're still wanting to play this game.

next year

[saffronhare.livejournal.com]

Good points all. I think this process is just uncomfortable enough to tell me I'm on the right track. You know -- hard enough that it's a challenge, but not so hard that I worry about my psyche dripping out my ears every day (once a week is enough, thank you). At the beginning, I mistakenly figured it was all about being nice. Silly rabbit. It's also about compassionate application of force and a great deal of empathy. A difficult road for someone who's spent so much of her life being rewarded for being the toughest sumbitch around.

It also helps to have a partner. I suspect next year will be tough too, as I learn to do what needs doing without giving undue weight to whether my actions will undermine my reputation, etc.

Yay.

Re: next year

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

Yep. The fun continues. I think that you'll find, when you move into this phase, that there are some things that get cut away -- so far, though, none of the things I have lost have been the essential things, though, and I suspect that this is a sort of purification.