That's it. I quit.

[featherynscale]

My little sister is getting married.

Will be taking "welcome to maiden aunthood" notices at any time. Jeebus.

Not only that, but she's marrying some guy I've never met or heard of. He's a Navy guy.

Meh.

In case anybody wonders why I don't check my voicemail, this is why. If you don't actually get me on the phone, you should not have the right to dump things like this on me.

EDIT: This bothers me on several levels. One is, of course, that my little sister is doing major "normal life" milestones before I do - I had a similar "throw up the white flag" reactions to the fact that she owns her own house and the fact that she has decided what to do with her life and is currently in a pre-vet program in college. She's 20 (I think) for gods' sake. Not that this should surprise me, since I've never really been on the "normal life" path (not for long, or seriously, anyway). Still, conditioning is a bitch. Even though we're running completely different races, I still sort of feel like not only am I behind her, but she's lapped me. My father is, of course, inordinately proud of her. She's everything his daughter should be. Hell, he bought her the house.

The other thing that bothers me is that I haven't really ever been there for my sisters. Not only do I not know the fiance, I didn't even know she was dating anybody. I can't even make a statement with mortal certainty about how old she is. And this is the sister I speak to *more* often. I don't even know where my other sister is living, or what she's doing at all.

I suck at having family. I repeat, meh.

Comments

[saffronhare.livejournal.com]

It always surprises me to remember you have a little sister. You always strike me as a stunning construct more than somebody's offspring or sibling. (That's meant to be a compliment, by the way.)

You can't possibly be a "maiden aunt" until you're at least 30.

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

I have two little sisters. This is, at least, the older one.

Although I'm sure that by the time I'm thirty, the other one will have settled down to some sort of obnoxious domesticity as well. And thirty is not very far off.

[kcwitch.livejournal.com]

mac ended up getting married to me and having kids well before his uncle even got a serious girl friend. now my oldest is going to have a baby and uncle don isn't even seeing anyone seriously again. my point? he is happy, so that's all that matters. you know what i mean?

[rougewench.livejournal.com]

My dear, if your daddy bought your sister the house, she isn't really succeeding on her own, now is she?

Think about what we are conditioned to be in this society, is that anything that you actually want for yourself? If not, look this conditioning echo in the eye and tell it to fuck right the fuck off.

Now, as to whether or not you keep in regular contact with your family...are they people that you would want to be in contact with or are they just people you happen to be related to? If the latter, know well that your family are those people who love you for who you actualy are...and that's a spectuacular human.


D.

[rougewench.livejournal.com]

Oh and one thought I neglected to add. If your sister is marrying at 20...the odds of her being divorced with kids within 5-10 years are excruciatingly high. I don't see that as a particularly successful tack either.


D.

[triadruid.livejournal.com]

I would comment, but D has just said everything I was going to.

Plus, she looks better in a corset than I do.

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

She's wise like that. But I'm not sure I believe the last part. I propose we put you in a corset and compare. You know, for science.

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

As per usual, you say the things that make me go, "You know, she's right."

Thank you.

[rougewench.livejournal.com]

Anytime, my dear. I know how frustrating it can be to bump into the tapes playing in your head that are solely old conditioning.


D.

[diermuid.livejournal.com]

Wow, I didn't really know you had sisters.

I only know about how old mine is because I can remember that when I was young I had a sister that was 5 years younger than me.

[rio-luna.livejournal.com]

i can sympathize honey, my younger sister having a Actual Carreer making Big Money and has edited anumber of books, including wnating to do a book on Ochun (and I'll vomit if she's got her name on it, before I get my book on Ochun written, arrgh!).

We can't compare our insides to their outsides. We're runnign different races. Comparing the relative 'successes' of siblings--that way madness lies. My cousin, that I diapered, is a doctor and I smoke pot in front of a mirror because I have no one to get high with. My sister wears Eileen Fisher and I shop at target.

sending you hugs.

good lard everyone is gettin' married!

[matchgirl42.livejournal.com]

It must be the apocalypse as we know it. People that shouldn't be getting married getting married, people who want to and should not being legally able to.....feh, I say, feh!