Attitude adjustment/Skills inventory
Jan. 9th, 2006 01:31 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
featherynscaleAs I mentioned, yesterday was a metric goatload of fun. But, as sometimes occurs, there was a dark spot in the day, when ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
adammaker said something like, "I almost never say, 'Wow, I don't want to learn how to do that'". And then, there was a chorus of assent from my other two-thirds, and I had to look at everybody and say, "Well, I do. I say that all the time." There are a lot of things I don't want to learn how to do, or at least don't want to learn how to do in that exact moment.
I think this is because I am fundamentally lazy. And, because of that, I find that I can't do nearly so many nifty things as most of my friends can, to say nothing of the lovely people who are my partners. And that's sort of depressing, and I generally wander around feeling inferior to people. So bleh.
So I was thinking I'd do two things here. One is to find some new things that I do want to learn how to do, and start learning how to do them. The other is to list out the skills I already have, so I can have some actual data to bitch and moan about, instead of just anecdotally bitching and moaning. There will eventually be a link to that list in this entry (I'm going to post it publicly, but backdated, so that if you're interested, you can see, but so that my neuroses will not clog up your friendslist if you aren't interested).
EDIT: It's here, if you care.
adammaker said something like, "I almost never say, 'Wow, I don't want to learn how to do that'". And then, there was a chorus of assent from my other two-thirds, and I had to look at everybody and say, "Well, I do. I say that all the time." There are a lot of things I don't want to learn how to do, or at least don't want to learn how to do in that exact moment. I think this is because I am fundamentally lazy. And, because of that, I find that I can't do nearly so many nifty things as most of my friends can, to say nothing of the lovely people who are my partners. And that's sort of depressing, and I generally wander around feeling inferior to people. So bleh.
So I was thinking I'd do two things here. One is to find some new things that I do want to learn how to do, and start learning how to do them. The other is to list out the skills I already have, so I can have some actual data to bitch and moan about, instead of just anecdotally bitching and moaning. There will eventually be a link to that list in this entry (I'm going to post it publicly, but backdated, so that if you're interested, you can see, but so that my neuroses will not clog up your friendslist if you aren't interested).
EDIT: It's here, if you care.
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Date: 2006-01-09 07:48 pm (UTC)http://web1.umkc.edu/commu/
Go poke around.
Poke.
poke poke.
perhaps I'm a fuddy-duddy
Date: 2006-01-09 08:20 pm (UTC)It's a matter of knowing that my personal time and energy are finite things. Agonizing about whether I'm inferior because I can't do Thing X takes up just as much energy as actually learning it. If I'm not going to worry about learning it, then I won't worry about not worrying about learning it. I think it's perfectly acceptable to be Not Interested.
I do not see this as laziness, but rather as a defense against the Scatterbrained Bunny that I would become if I never made a choice to exclude something. As a response strategy, it means I'm conserving my energy for something that matters more. If I keep jumping from new thing to new thing, then I'll never have time for what I've already got. But that's just me. :)
anecdotal bullshit
Date: 2006-01-09 08:48 pm (UTC)I don't think you're any less talented or skilled than I am; you certainly have a different host of skills than I do, in a large number of areas, but I'm not willing to bet on whose list is longer. So there. (insert saff's thbbbt bunny here)
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Date: 2006-01-09 08:52 pm (UTC)Re: anecdotal bullshit
Date: 2006-01-09 09:08 pm (UTC)Anyway, the list serves a number of purposes, one of which being that I want to know whether I just already know how to do everything I'm interested in knowing how to do, or whether there are a lot more things out there that I would like to learn to do and I'm just too lazy to learn to do them. Also, I'm interested in the patterns of things I know how to do, and whether they all cluster up in a few areas, or whether they're all over the map, and so on.
Also, nobody in our house is kinkier than anyone else, overall. We are all certainly kinkier in different areas, but I think we average out pretty even. Assuming, of course, that there are scales for such things and that kinkiness can be quanitified.
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Date: 2006-01-09 09:09 pm (UTC)You can do Anything, but not Everything.
Date: 2006-01-09 09:17 pm (UTC)-=-
I've gobs of things that I have no further desire to dig into. (Really!)
Re: anecdotal bullshit
Date: 2006-01-09 09:21 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-09 09:22 pm (UTC)That might be fun.
I took a creative writing course at one of these things, once. I got in with a bunch of older ladies who wanted to write either their memoirs or Harlequin romances. I was in a mostly horror phase at the time. After a while, nobody wanted to be my critiquing partner anymore, so I stopped going. :(
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Date: 2006-01-09 09:24 pm (UTC)This is where I started my rescue training as dive recovery and rescue was the whole reason I join the Pope County Search and Rescue team and met and married
Re: anecdotal bullshit
Date: 2006-01-09 09:25 pm (UTC)Re: anecdotal bullshit
Date: 2006-01-09 09:26 pm (UTC)Re: anecdotal bullshit
Date: 2006-01-09 09:29 pm (UTC)Then again, I'm a Certified Pothead, so I guess I'm not really useful as a motivation yardstick.
So, um, nevermind.
Re: anecdotal bullshit
Date: 2006-01-09 09:30 pm (UTC)Has it snowed since I left?
Re: anecdotal bullshit
Date: 2006-01-09 09:34 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-09 09:35 pm (UTC)Re: anecdotal bullshit
Date: 2006-01-09 09:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-09 09:37 pm (UTC)Happy times in Denver?
laziness
Date: 2006-01-09 09:44 pm (UTC)My reasoning is that doing more work than is required is stupid; therefore, doing the minimum amount of work to get by is smart.
I would further argue that most, if not all, inventions that have ever been invented have been in pursuit of advancing the art of laziness by reducing the amount of (human) work necessary.
This attitude would also be in line with the ritual that I attended on New Year's day; if you are in fact lazy, perhaps that's a positive trait?
Re: anecdotal bullshit
Date: 2006-01-09 09:47 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-09 09:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-09 10:23 pm (UTC)Sometimes, that is not nearly controllable enough.
You do seem to have fallen in with some good people.... overall.
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Date: 2006-01-10 11:35 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-10 02:15 pm (UTC)Sorry. Could't resist.
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Date: 2006-01-10 02:40 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-01-10 02:40 pm (UTC)